“Teaching is not about information.It’s about having an honest intellectual relationship with your students”Paul Lockhart
Teaching learning process involves a teacher and a student. It is very important for both of them to have a healthy relationship in order to carry out the teaching learning process smoothly. Teachers are known to be the second parents. Parents provide us moral education and teachers provide us rest of the knowledge necessary for living and knowing the world. The gurus of ancient era are now addressed by ‘sir’ or the last name. The child’s relationship with the teacher determines the grade and academics of the student. Teachers control the destiny of the students for more that two decades. Ultimately, the product comes out. The way the teacher has shaped the mind and creativity of the student then shows. Establishing a positive teacher student relationship helps to yield a beautiful environment in the classroom. A teacher is also a guide, a friend, a counsellor and also like a gardener who waters the tiny flowers called children.
If the teacher student relationship is to be maximally productive, must reflect certain attitudes and commitments of each to the other. First, the student must respect his or her teacher and hold him in the highest esteem. Even though this instruction may be uncomfortable and disconcerting at times, but a teacher always wants his student to do good.50 the student must believe that the teacher always has his or her best interests in mind. All the time, the teacher looks forward to improve his student and polish the creativity in the student. The student must commit himself or she to following the instruction with utmost discipline, just as a doctor’s orders must be followed precisely, since failure to do so could cause harm, so a teacher’s advices must be obeyed with equal sincerity. A teacher is the student’s path finder. When we need to move on or are stuck with something, teacher helps us find the way Teacher is like a potter who craves mud into a fixed shape, and turns it into a pot. Teachers always stand by the students, to guide and support them.
In the teenage years school becomes one of the most interesting places for the youth because you can make great friends there and you can learn how to deal with your own problems by your self. That is why the teacher should be student’s best friend. Professor’s acts should be an example for each student. In the school the student builds a pared of his character. Sometimes the teacher should talk about common problems and break the atmosphere of roiling, rolls and discipline, cause the life of a young man isn’t just school lessons. This is the most difficult period of young man’s life.( Biljana Kotevska). The teacher should befriend the students and be a perfect guide to the students. When a child is born, he learns to speak, gradually he starts to walk and learning and understanding life. In the course of time, the same child reaches maturity. If he is in the hands of an experienced and an ideal teacher, the child turns out to be a successful person. We can take an example of the street children and the children who go to schools.no significant learning canoccurwithout a significantrelation ship”James comer
The pattern and culture of teaching and learning process has been changing. In ancient times, teachers used to be teaching in their ashrams and the students would have to make the teachers by working hard at the ashram. The students used to collect firewoods, fodder for the cattles, clean the house and cook food for the gurus. Gradually this system changed and now formal education has been in trend. Students pay fees instead of working at guru’s ashram and study in the classrooms. Also, with the change in this pattern of teaching, students have failed to respect teachers like the students years ago used to. The role of a teacher was different before, but now, since the world has changed a lot, and there is a lot other means for people to receive information like media, internet etc. Students today are more informed then before, and so the teachers are more of a facilitator there. There is no such charm in the relationship of the teacher and student like before. Teachers teach and students learn, there is no intimacy between the teachers and students. When this becomes worst, and there is a huge communication gap between the teacher and the student, then there occurs problem in the relationship between them. The actual teacher-student relationship however changes during the career. On average there is a significant increase in dominant behaviour of teachers during the first decade of their career: a movement towards the ideal teacher-student relationship. After this period dominance stabilises. On average there is no change in co-operative behaviour. There is no shift towards the ideal as experience grows.( Mieke Brekelmans).
These days, we can hear news about the teachers harassing the students too. The teacher – student relationship is pure like water. These kinds of incidents make the relation weaker. There are lots of cases where we find female students being harassed by the male teachers. Especially in the third world countries, female students are more prone to the harassments. Lord Brahma in Hinduism is known as a teacher. A teacher is compared to a very sacred and pure figure/ god in Hinduism.
A teacher if imposes rules and discipline to the students, the student fails to develop his creativity. He learns that in life you don’t do anything unless you’re bullied and conned into doing it. He learns to get bored even with a small piece of work . ( John Holt) . At times we hear news about students committing suicide because of the marks and grades issues. When a student takes the exam well but doesn’t get the expected marks due to the personal problem teacher has with the student, some of the teachers intentionally don’t want the students to get the marks with flying colours. Due to the punishments given by teachers to the students, the students may be badly affected. The young mind and psychology of the children might get disturbed. We come across numerous news about these issues nowadays. There are many laws against this but only few are being implemented.
The teacher-student relationship is a must for quality education. This means that the teacher does not necessarily have to feel favourably of the student and neither does the student have to think same for the teacher, but a common language is required.. And both sides should feel comfortably about trust and intimacy in the teacher student relationship. Both sides should be aware of the others’ feelings and there should be respect for each others in the heart. Teachers are the second parents, so students must put the teachers’ instructions in practice as they would always want their students to do well and be successful in life. And teachers have certain responsibility towards the students, as they are the path leaders; they are to lead the students towards the right way in a right manner. For this, there must be a charm and positive relationship between the teacher and the student.
Dr Richa Srivastava